MY GOALS, AND VALUES

. ACCOMPLISHED GOALS- completed mobility training, completed the necessary tasks to obtain a Leader Dog for the Blind, raised my children basically on my own, held a job from age fifteen until age thirty six when I could no longer drive, taught Sunday school for several years, worked with arts and crafts for several years and still do, cared for my mother through the Independent Living program.
b. DELAYED GOALS- to become more independent and less dependent, take better care of my self both physically and emotionally, work on getting my GED, have stability in my life, play the piano.
c. UNATTAINABLE GOALS. I would like to go back to working a job that I am qualified to do, spend time with my grandchildren alone without the help from other family members, drive my car (Mustang) just one more time. The longest list is my accomplished goals. I think the delayed goal I would like to achieve would be to get my GED. The resources I would need to accomplish this goal would be to find a school or program that may have the materials in large print. I would much rather see the course in large print because I love to read as long as my eye sight will permit. My attitude toward my unattainable goals is self defeat and unrealistic. For example, it is unrealistic for me to drive my car. I used to love to drive my Mustangs and now I feel defeated since I can not drive.
Social standard is how others view and compare you’re behavior and performance as a visually impaired person. Personal standard is how one visually impaired person compares another visually impaired persons behavior and performance. SOCIAL COMPARSION STANDARD EXAMPLE- I had a friend I used to go walking with every day. She stopped walking with me after I had to start using my cane. I was given no explanation as to why she would no longer walk with me. I believe I was too slow for her pace with my cane. As a matter of fact she stopped coming around altogether. PERSONAL STANDARD EXAMPLE- I compare my self with my mother and how she would do certain tasks like how she could clean house and cook. I am not as good at it as she was. Cooking is a skill I have not been taught to do well yet. Mom was a very good cook and she was totally blind.
Try harder- give it more effort or find a clever way around the difficulty to accomplish the goal. Alter aspirations- adjust your goals is one way or substitute an attainable goal for an unattainable one. Relax standards- instead of trying to be the best be happy that you achieved the goal even if it was not up to your standards. Give up-after failing many times a person tends to give up. You do not have to be humiliated if you do not try. My response to failure is that I give up easily.
MOST IMPORTANT VALUES- Inner harmony- Peace of mind knowing I am saved by grace through the blood of Christ. True friendship- to me a true friendship is someone who is there for you through the good times and the bad times. A true friend will over look your faults and love you anyway. Wisdom-I have been told by a few people that I am a wise person. I think things through and use a lot of discernment. Creativity- I love to do my crafts. I make and decorate grapevine wreaths and I make little birdhouse chimes. I get a lot of enjoyment out of doing these things it sure is a fun hobby and it makes me feel good about my self. THE LEAST IMPORTANT VALUES- Body beautiful- I do not believe it is what we have on the outside that counts. We can have many flaws but have a beautiful spirit and soul. I believe God loves us no matter what color, size or shape we come in. Normalcy- normal is a state of mind. I would like to think of my self as unique. To be able to make my own choices weather right or wrong.